Getting the ball rolling...again

So here it is. December and I have't had a post since October?? Wow. Well I'm starting my new year's resoultion early. I am going to (try) to post more. At least once a week...hopefully. I want to also do some wedding recap post so I can remember the details of the day so you can look forward to that! But stay tuned for updates..

Anyways life at the Haberman household has been great. We've had a bout with illness which seems to be going away. We've been completely enjoying our house and just feel so lucky to have such a wonderful place to live! Today we were finally hit with the winter storm that has been promised to us for the last couple days. Here's some pics of the weather...and it's still coming down. Tis the season...and we love it! Enjoy!

Goin to the zoo zoo zoo! How about you you you??

Oh I haven't posted in like forever. Well there are a few reasons for that. First one is that I would love to do some posts of the wedding day and I want to post pictures with it but our professional photos can take up to 12 weeks to be done....uggh! And also, I don't have a ton of pictures of me getting ready...well cause I didn't take any cause I was getting ready and most of the lovely people who did take pictures haven't uploaded them to the flickr account. Yes this is another plea to upload your pictures to the flickr site....It would make me ohhh so happy. Please please please. Ask Jason how to do it if ya run into problems.

Anyways on to current events....Last Saturday we took the nephews to the zoo. Yeah just Jas and I and the two boys. It was so much fun. Zac is such a great kid...he was just so content walking around with us and seeing all the animals. And Marcus...he was just as content being pushed around in his stroller and seeing all the sights...such a good baby. I haven't been to the zoo in probably over 15 years...my has it changed. In junior high I was a zoo Docent...yeah I have a ton of stories from that. Like how they had us jump in the badger exhibit to feed them. One person would run the food to the den and the other would watch out for the badgers coming out of the whole...yeah very safe. Anyways it's a great place to go now. We all had a good time...well maybe Uncle Jas was a bit tired and hung over but we have no pictures of him. Enjoy the adorable nephews!

An update and an anniversary of sorts!

Well it happened. We are married! It was hands down one of the best days of my life. It was one of the most hectic but in the end I look back at it and just can't stop smiling. Everything went great! That morning was super stressful, I hardly got any sleep the night before, people were hauling things here and there and asking me all sorts of questions, I was super nervous and I kind of felt like I was getting lost in the mix. Then it was time for me to go see Jason before we went and took pictures. From that point on, everything melted away and I was just riding cloud nine! The ball had started rolling. I was able to block out all my stress, concerns, details, other people's needs and just be with Jason. It was great! It was really nice to get me away from everyone and everything and have fun with him...even though it was sooo hot that day! Then the ceremony happened in a flash. There was a cellphone incident...which was hilarious in my book! And then an awesome reception. It all seemed to happen so fast. Then we were off to Maui, which was much needed. I don't think that I've ever been that exhausted before and just the opportunity to relax and have no obligations...heaven. And to be 24/7 with your new husband...priceless. Being husband and wife now...I don't know how to exactly explain it but it's different. It's like a deeper connection and man do we just fit sooo comfortably into our roles...it's great! I do love married life.

Now it's back to real life. This last weekend, all I did was eat, catch up on more sleep and clean and organize. I feel better about our house. It was quite overwhelming to come back to it all. What is nice is just to be able to enjoy the now. Not having a wedding to worry and constantly think about...it's mental heaven for me! I do want to do some retrospective posts about the days leading up to the big event, our time in Hawaii and of course keep everyone current. I will get to those, I promise.

Oh and on this date...2 years ago. I met the most influential and amazing person in my life for a round of minigolf and a few beers. Wow, look where it ended up! I love you Jason and here's to taking chances and knowing that everything happens for a reason...Onwards and upwards(but I don't know how much more upwards we could get! :) )

My Wish

The official countdown reads 11 days 7.5 hours and I will be a married lady! With the date coming nearer emotions are running high...mine and others. I can't help but try and make sure that everyone is taken care of and no one is feeling left out or otherwise. Today I realized that it may be out of my control. And that I cannot stress about.

My wish and main goal of throwing this whole wedding is to provide an opportunity to celebrate Jason and I's marriage and to provide a time for friends and family to enjoy each other's company, see and hangout with people they haven't seen in a long time, meet new people and to have fun. That's it.

I don't want to look back at this time and remember who was hurt and who was happy.

I will post with more exciting and fun information and other tidbits but this has been weighing very heavy on me lately and I just need to clear my air at least! Stay tuned...onwards and upwards

One Month

Yes that's right...I am one month and 6.5 hours away from being married...crazy! I can't believe it's all coming so fast. I'm doing ok. I haven't really slept in the past two night so I think the uneasy and tired feeling is attributed to that.
On paper...we're looking good. Major things nailed down. People contacted...everything is coming together. I'm excited for the day to come. For all of it to be real instead of just talking about it. To have the fun instead of planning the fun.
I'll write more when I get some more sleep and can think straight.

Until then...one month people!

Summer Blooms etc.

Finally I have got around to doing some gardening. Because everything is so beautifully landscaped at the new house I've resorted to strictly pots this year. Easier maintenece, no weeding and I can move things around to see what grows the best where. My lovely chef had requested fresh herbs so I put him to work first installing the new way cool fence baskets I found of all places at Joann Fabrics and 50% off!


Insert these in them.


And this is what you've got!


They are wave petunias so they will trail down the baskets and look awesome!

Then we have the patio side.


We've got (from right to left) mint (a transplant from Althea last year!) the wonderful petunia hanging basket from the Mouws (someone won't let me drill into the house yet!)and a lovely pot my mom put together! So cute!


Chives!


Basil!


And oregano, tarragon and dill!

And this is what I sometimes catch out our living room at about 5:30am! Amazing!

I love it here!

Perspective

A few things here. Today is my last day as 30, what a year! I keep forgetting that my birthday is tomorrow. I guess that's what busy gets you. We are settling into the new house. I love it. I love coming home to our quiet little street and our gorgeous house. I love the feel of "our" house. It's amazing and so relaxing and just so us. I can now say that it has been worth all the stress and work to get here. I'm in love with our house...and this guy who keeps showing up in it too :)!!!
Of course there is the wedding. We are less that 2 months away. Where did the time go? After my little melt down/pitty party from last post(and thank you to all the sweet comments, I truly appreciate them)I just mustered up the energy and have things going in full swing. I have a few projects in the works...thanks to some amazing future in-laws!
And I've found some much needed perspective. There is this website that I frequent during the whole wedding process. It's called weddingbee.com There are selected bloggers, "Bees". Ladies who are in the height of the planning stage of their wedding. A lot of it is too much DIY for me but here's a post that resonated with me. I forwarded it on to Jason yesterday and I think his exact words were "I agree 100%!" Miss Pineapple is the author or the "Bee". Enjoy and Happy Friday!


It is Just a Wedding.
June 19th, 2008 @ 12:37 pm by Miss Pineapple

That’s right, I said it. Just.

Just a wedding.

Not the “most important day of our lives,” not our “big day,” not an extravagant party where we have to please everyone. It is just a wedding.

When it comes to planning our wedding I have asked for little advice from our friends and family. When I come up with an idea about a detail our of wedding I share it with Mr. Pineapple and he generally has one of two responses “sure, great!” or “yeah, I don’t think so.” It is a pretty simple system. This method works for us, because I get to be swept up in all the little details that I think are great fun and Mr. Pineapple doesn’t get overwhelmed with 10,000 typefaces.

Before we make any wedding related choice you can bet I have googled the heck out it first. I check Weddingbee archives, discussion boards and browse Martha and the knot galleries. I tear pages from magazines and bookmark dozens of blogs. I fill our DVR with episode after episode of “Whose Wedding is it Anyway?” (I swear, that show is on almost as much as Law and Order - which is a good thing!) After collecting as many ideas as I can and racking my brain for more, I choose one and ask for the opinion of my partner in crime. Each decision we have made, we are very happy with and we think it is the best decision we could make. After all, what is the big deal? It is just a wedding.

Whenever I imagined planning our wedding someday I always pictured lots of friends and family involved. The more we have gotten into the thick of things the more I prefer just going at it with internet and print resources. I don’t want my near and dear to feel that the only thing I ever talk about with them is the wedding, so I often only bring it up when asked.

This has backfired on a few occasions. A couple people have felt left out of the planning process, assuming I think their opinions don’t matter. They do matter, and I would love to hear ideas, but I don’t know where to draw the line with wedding talk. In the end I am confident that Mr. P and I won;t make any “bad” choices, so we don’t get approval before purchasing DIY materials or booking vendors. It’s just a bouquet, just a cake and just a wedding.

One choice we made early on was to have an adult-only wedding. I know there is some controversy on this topic, but I also know we are not alone in our choice. We love babies, we want to have a few of our own some day. However, for many reasons, we feel that an adult-only wedding really is the way to go. Because of this choice I have been told “I am going to bring my son to your wedding and I will make a scene… I will ruin your fancy wedding on the river.” Tears have been shed, family members have jumped down one another’s throats, we have yelled and hung up on one another. When in reality, it is just a wedding.

After these very real and very probable threats from a family member who has acted outrageously selfish in the past, I had to tell him and his wife that they were no longer invited. If I thought there was any chance that he was just faking it to scare me into changing our decision, or if he had accepted any of the compromises I offered, then maybe I could give him another chance. Unfortunately, I know this person is all too capable of making me cry and making my family fight in public. I would prefer tears of joy only please, thanks. Of course, there are other family members who want me to give him a second chance. People who really want him to be there. I don’t understand why. Why take the chance of something really bad happening just so he could be there? It is just a wedding.

This type of drama threw me completely off guard. I would have never imagined, in a million years, that someone would want to make a scene at our wedding. Or that someone would get angry about the design of our invites. It is just one night without your child, it is just stationery, it is just a wedding.

I wish I could issue a blanket statement to everyone that says:

“Mr. Pineapple and I are going to become a family. Our wedding day is the day that it will become official.

We would like you to come because we care about you and thought you would like to 1) see Miss Pineapple in a poofy dress and 2) see Mr. Pineapple cry.

So sorry if you don’t like our invitations and think our food is gross, we love it and had hoped you would too.

Thanks for coming.

Love,
The Pineapples”

The wedding is not our big day. The wedding not the most important day of our lives. The wedding is not what is really happening on October 18th.

October 18th is the day Mr. Pineapple and I become a family. It is the day he becomes a husband and I become a wife. It is the day our family doubles in size with additional moms and dads, brothers and sisters, nieces and nephews. It is a happy day for us, because it is the first official day of the rest of our days together.